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R-Kelly: Old news new story
Just as R-Kelly makes his rounds to talk about his new music the blogs get buzzing again with old news about his sexual exploits. As if to say “we” are still hurting and “we” have not forgotten. I’m lost by all of this mass victimization. How is it that African American women go from knocking each other down, stabbing each other in that back, and dragging each others names through mud to empathy ? I’ll tell you how, it’s all bull crap. This isn’t about African American women feeling that this is an injustice. This is about African American doing what they love to do, male bash.
I’m so sick of it! It’s weak, it’s immature and most importantly it’s counter productive. African American women need to woman up and accept responsibility for their own actions. If you want to be empowered this is the only way you are ever going to become empowered. You don’t become empowered by playing the victim.
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What R-Kelly did is illegal and depending on who you speak to it is also immoral. Is R-Kelly special ? No. Pull out your history books. This world was developed by men who slept with underaged girls because during those times it was legal. He participated in some activities that everyone “claims” they’ve never done. The reality is that in the fetish world anything and everything goes. Entirely too many of us are in the dark about what men enjoy sexually. I totally understand why so many end up in marriages built on lies. I am in no way defending or justifying his acts. I’m calling attention to the bigger topic that needs to be addressed like mature, intelligent women who want to save our families and rebuild our communities. F.Y.I when the family is broken then the community is broken. Instead of bashing R-Kelly for his “Fetish” I strongly suggest you find out what deep dark fetish your man is hiding.
Let’s not forget the fact that most of those native girls had never even heard of R-Kelly before. Every teenage girl in Chicago knew exactly who R-Kelly was and we heard all the rumors. We knew he was picking up girls at his former highschool and so did the entire south side of Chicago. The bigger question is why didn’t someone at the school or the police stop him if it were such a problem ? The reality is that it didn’t become a problem until those “girls” realized that R-Kelly had other “girls” and that they were not going to be his main chick. I don’t consider that being taken advantage of at all. Being taken advantage of requires some ignorance about the situation or person you are dealing with. These girls “knew” exactly who they were dealing with.
I recall the one girl driving around in her brand new PT Cruiser that R-Kelly bought her and sure didn’t seem taken advantage of to me. She was ready and willing. She didn’t appear to be suffering while joy riding through the neighborhood showing off her new car to all her friends.
This is not about injustice from the legal system. This is about African American women playing the victim. Each of those girls has mothers, they were not poor little orphans. They were raised by African American women who are responsible for teaching them, guiding them, shaping their character and morals. So, Why aren’t you bashing the mothers ? When your daughter is out all night, getting expensive gifts, getting new friends, suddenly becoming popular and cool don’t you notice ? When you sit down with your daughter and ask her how was school and whats going on in her life wouldn’t she tell you ? It’s time to accept responsibility for our poor parenting and disconnection from our children, our families and our community. This is the same cause of all the violence with our young African American men who were raised by single African American women. Still, you blame the absentee father for that. Exactly how is a man with little to no influence responsible for everything wrong with a child ?
I’m sick of it ! R-Kelly did not make those “girls” do anything they did not want to do. I saw him and his entourage with some girls a few times. They hung out at my job they Rock and Roll Mc Donalds across the street from the Rainforest cafe on the weekends. It was all fun, laughs and giggles. Not only that but I’m sure those girls had the chance to say no just like I did. Pick up your lip ! I was 19 it was 1999 and I told a member of his entourage NO and that was the end of that.
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